A thread to discuss depression and other mental issues...

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Re: A thread to discuss depression and other mental issues...

Postby DrVenk on Fri Feb 09, 2018 10:48 pm

bongo wrote:This is really hard for me.

I am 60 and retired and live alone.
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My mum was in the exact same position after being widowed 8 years ago. She joined a local over 55s social club and it gave her a renewed sense of life.

Sometimes taking a random step of throwing yourself into the company of strangers can take you out of yourself and stimulate interest in life again. I'd also think about any hobbies you've stopped in your life and ask yourself why you did so.

If you saw my mum 8 years ago to where she is now, it would reinforce the view that for most of us, we all still have the ability to surprise ourselves.

Just keep talking mate and don't ever think 'this is it' in life.
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Re: A thread to discuss depression and other mental issues...

Postby davids cross on Mon Feb 12, 2018 1:20 pm

bongo wrote:Thanks for your comments Hammerdivine any help is very welcome


Tremendous scenes from bongo there..........Image

Simon Thomas (he from Sky Sports), is writing some wonderfully moving stuff on his depression.........and grief.

If you get a minute give his thoughts a read.... :thup:

EDIT.....apologies to matthew who posted the link way before me.

https://agriefshared.com/2018/02/09/my-secret-battle/"
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Re: A thread to discuss depression and other mental issues...

Postby Westcliffspur on Thu Feb 15, 2018 6:22 pm

I have suffered manic depression for over 25 years. (I know, that's what comes from following Spurs.)

I have also battled an eating disorder and self-harming. This goes back to issues from childhood where I was sexually abused and beaten by a teacher in the early 1970's.

My heart goes out to anyone battling mental health issues. I nearly threw myself off a pier when I was 12 because of what that b*stard did to me. The abuse continued for three years. I never told a soul until just before Christmas when I had yet another nervous breakdown in the doctor's office. Fortunately, I am now in therapy. I have been married 30 years and I have never been able to tell my wife what happened to me as a child. The shame is too great.
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Re: A thread to discuss depression and other mental issues...

Postby Rocketron on Thu Feb 15, 2018 6:39 pm

Westcliffspur wrote:I have suffered manic depression for over 25 years. (I know, that's what comes from following Spurs.)

I have also battled an eating disorder and self-harming. This goes back to issues from childhood where I was sexually abused and beaten by a teacher in the early 1970's.

My heart goes out to anyone battling mental health issues. I nearly threw myself off a pier when I was 12 because of what that b*stard did to me. The abuse continued for three years. I never told a soul until just before Christmas when I had yet another nervous breakdown in the doctor's office. Fortunately, I am now in therapy. I have been married 30 years and I have never been able to tell my wife what happened to me as a child. The shame is too great.

You need have no shame, the Teacher does.
I bet you would receive loads of love, support and admiration the day you feel able to tell your wife.
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Re: A thread to discuss depression and other mental issues...

Postby Samba on Thu Feb 15, 2018 6:52 pm

Westcliffspur wrote:I have suffered manic depression for over 25 years. (I know, that's what comes from following Spurs.)
I have also battled an eating disorder and self-harming. This goes back to issues from childhood where I was sexually abused and beaten by a teacher in the early 1970's.
My heart goes out to anyone battling mental health issues. I nearly threw myself off a pier when I was 12 because of what that b*stard did to me. The abuse continued for three years. I never told a soul until just before Christmas when I had yet another nervous breakdown in the doctor's office. Fortunately, I am now in therapy. I have been married 30 years and I have never been able to tell my wife what happened to me as a child. The shame is too great.

You know what Wcs, the fact that you posted that tells me that you are a very brave & worthwhile person.
Sexual abuse in childhood is a very well known cause of (sometimes severe) mental illness later in life.
The more I meet people in life I'm beginning to think more people have suffered sexual abuse than haven't, so you are probably in the majority. You are DEFINITELY not alone. I know that you have always been ashamed but in actual fact, you were & are entirely blameless, in that aspect of your early life.
I wish you lots of luck in one day getting to a place where you can forgive yourself & finally get the peace of mind that you deserve. Good luck, mate & post whenever you need to.
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Re: A thread to discuss depression and other mental issues...

Postby Tenbury on Thu Feb 15, 2018 8:57 pm

WCS, I 've had a charmed life compared to you, you have my utmost respect, stick with the therapy.I hope,in time, you can find the courage ,and the right occasion to tell your wife.
As far as the manic depression(or as they like to call it Bipolar these days) is concerned, I've lived with this longer than I care to think.Feel free to PM me anytime,you won't receive any pearls of wisdom( I haven't got any) but it's helped me in bad times to know someone else has at least some idea of what's going on in my head, and I'll beglad to hear from you.
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Re: A thread to discuss depression and other mental issues...

Postby somerset-hammer on Mon Feb 19, 2018 7:35 am

matthewbd wrote:Simon Thomas, of Sky Sports News etc, has started blogging about his battles.

Worth a read I found. https://agriefshared.com/2018/02/09/my-secret-battle/


Stumbled upon this yesterday, quite a sobering read, brutally honest and extremely brave of him, considering what he has been through.

Having watched him many times on the box you would never have guessed the amount he was suffering, which is quite scary when you think about it, how many of those around you, loved ones, colleagues etc, are suffering in silent, giving nothing away.

As Simon has shown, and have the many brave folk on this thread, it's so important to open up if you can and realise you are not alone, there is no shame in admitting you are struggling and might need some help, raising awareness is key.

On that note, just a reminder that RARS is throwing himself out of a plane to raise money for Mind, the mental health charity.

https://www.justgiving.com/fundraising/steve-lee-mind
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Re: A thread to discuss depression and other mental issues...

Postby Turns to Stone on Tue Feb 20, 2018 2:09 pm

"Don’t be strong. Be weak. Unclench your fists. Dare to be vulnerable. Honest weakness takes courage. It affirms our common humanity, deepens friendship and elicits grace.”

Such a simple idea, but sometimes so tough to follow through with. Great to see so many on here who feel empowered to ask for help or just tell each other what they're going through.

Easily the best most important thread on KUMB right now.

And 'hat's off', RARS!

:thup:
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Re: A thread to discuss depression and other mental issues...

Postby rare as rockinghorse shat on Tue Feb 20, 2018 2:16 pm

Thank you for the donation mate. It's very, very appreciated :thup:
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Re: A thread to discuss depression and other mental issues...

Postby Turns to Stone on Tue Feb 20, 2018 2:48 pm

:thup:

Great work, mate. My wife works for MIND and it's a very worthy cause.

Good Luck!
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Re: A thread to discuss depression and other mental issues...

Postby davids cross on Tue Feb 20, 2018 4:24 pm

Hi Peachy.....

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Re: A thread to discuss depression and other mental issues...

Postby Turns to Stone on Tue Feb 20, 2018 5:21 pm

:oops:

Uh oh! I suddenly feel incredibly exposed!
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Re: A thread to discuss depression and other mental issues...

Postby hammerdivone on Tue Feb 20, 2018 5:27 pm

davids cross wrote:Hi Peachy.....

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Hi Steve

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Re: A thread to discuss depression and other mental issues...

Postby davids cross on Tue Feb 20, 2018 5:41 pm

Don't even go there Cheggers....

The bloody nightmare of my school days......Image
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