A thread to discuss depression and other mental issues...

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Re: A thread to discuss depression and other mental issues...

Postby Westcliffspur on Fri Jun 08, 2018 5:22 pm

rare as rockinghorse shat wrote:Anthony Bourdain (very famous American chef) has died, reported suicide, aged 61

Unclear what the reason(s) were but not too far fetched that it was likely linked to some form of mental troubles.



I confess to not knowing who the fella was before the news broke but it just shows just like with fashion designer Kate Spade who also sadly took her own life earlier in the week, wealth & fame are no insulators to serious mental health difficulties.
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Re: A thread to discuss depression and other mental issues...

Postby Rocketron on Fri Jun 08, 2018 7:37 pm

Slacking student wrote:This is it I think

https://twitter.com/simonfromharlow/sta ... 4017026048" onclick="window.open(this.href);return false;" onclick="window.open(this.href);return false;

Yep just scroll down and you can read the entire thread

Which one is his amazing dancing bear?
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Re: A thread to discuss depression and other mental issues...

Postby mushy on Sat Jun 09, 2018 1:40 am

Slacking student wrote:This is it I think

https://twitter.com/simonfromharlow/sta ... 4017026048" onclick="window.open(this.href);return false;" onclick="window.open(this.href);return false;

Yep just scroll down and you can read the entire thread

Yes, that's the one slacking.
Thanks for that.
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Re: A thread to discuss depression and other mental issues...

Postby The Old Man of Storr on Mon Jun 11, 2018 11:09 am

Monkeybubbles wrote:This is a bit of a plea for advice, really.....

My lad is 20 and has suffered for the last three or four years with very severe colitis, - Leaving the house is a real mission as he has to plan his journey by the availability of a loo every half an hour. So, he doesn't leave the house.

His girlfriend dumped him a couple of years ago, as she wanted to see more of the world. His mates have all gone away to Uni. His slightly older brother, who he idolises, also went away to Uni and has stayed there. Now it appears that the medication he has to have pumped into him has caused a liver infection, which may turn out to be quite serious.

He's always been intelligent, smart, good natured and whipcrack funny, but he's always been very shy. Now he's becoming increasingly withdrawn and sullen, just sits in his room on the Playstation pretty much all day.

What can I do?


When we encounter problems in our own lives we tend not to worry as we usually end up sorting them out but when it's our children who have the problems we worry and we worry and we worry some more .

He'll be feeling rejected , he'll be feeling envious , he'll be feeling lost and worried about his future and on top of that there's this horrible illness he's having to cope with .

First of all , let's deal with the girlfriend problem - he's had one girlfriend so it's possible for him to get another one , it sounds like he has a great personality so he'll be fine . Maybe he could do a bit of online dating for a while or meet someone on his Playstation .

All his friends , his best mate and older brother have all gone to University so he's bound to be feeling lonely and envious - When all my friends went off to Uni I got a job in a Bank for 4 years - I felt a bit of a failure and was jealous that they were all having fun , but 4 years passed quickly and I decided I'd also go to college [ it's never too late he can go there in his own time ] . There's also the Open University .

The Colitis and liver problems -
This is the top priority for now , it's imperative to get this sorted as soon as possible [ I'm sure you don't need me to tell you this ] . OK , he's facing surgery and may have to wear a colostomy bag - it sounds horrible and devastating to a 20 year old but there are far worse things [ again we all know this ] . the Doctors and Specialists will be able to help him with this far more than anyone on here will so I won't begin to try .

At first glance it's worrying to see your boy on Playstation all the time - there are benefits and disadvantages to sitting in front of a screen shooting at people all day , I'll talk about the benefits though - He's with friends , he's interacting , he's having a good time , it helps kill boredom and he's not likely to get into any harm . Keep an eye on the hours and encourage him to go for a walk with you as much as possible . Also , try to think of a hobby you could both take part in which means going out [ but close to a loo ] - photography needn't mean a trip to the Highlands of Scotland [ though you'd be very welcome ] - bird watching - walks in the countryside - kayaking [ just for half an hour or whatever he can manage ] - other stuff that I can't think of just now . PM me if you want to chat .

I know what it's like worrying about your child as our boy [ now 22 ] has Aspergers and other syndromes - he's very handsome but no one wants to go out with him - he has friends but doesn't see them that regularly - he also spends a lot of time on his Xbox - we got him involved in kayaking and Drama which helped immensely but he still needs a lot of our help .
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Re: A thread to discuss depression and other mental issues...

Postby Monkeybubbles on Mon Jun 11, 2018 11:24 am

Thanks TOMOS, much appreciated. You're a good feller.
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Re: A thread to discuss depression and other mental issues...

Postby The Old Man of Storr on Mon Jun 11, 2018 11:43 am

Monkeybubbles wrote:Thanks TOMOS, much appreciated. You're a good feller.


It's ok , it doesn't take much to help out a mate - I can't speak for your son but what I've found with ours is he responds to other people more than he does to his Mum and Dad , talking to strangers can be of help , I'd be happy to chat to you and your boy if you think it may be of some benefit - I realise he's a bit shy but he's young yet and once he's gained a bit of confidence he may gain the self assurance of his old man .
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Re: A thread to discuss depression and other mental issues...

Postby Mega Ron on Sat Jun 16, 2018 10:11 am

I don't think I face the same struggles that some on here do but I've been struggling this year.

I started the year feeling quite positive. I think I generally am positive and happy with things but at the beginning of the year I finished writing a book I'd been working on for a little while. I was at a stage where I was tidying it up and was arranging artwork for it.

Then life got in the way. I started a new job. My wife was leaving her old role, then going back to it for much more cash but long hours, and it fell to me more than ever to be doing all the school runs and that crap.

While all this has been going on we've had builders in the house for 6 months now. It's about a week from completion but it's tough to live through. Especially as I've lost my office so am working in the corner of my bedroom.

I never realised before how much of a haven my office has been to me and I think that without it I don't have the right setup to relax/unwind/feel comfortable.

As a result of all these things combined I feel that at the back/on the edge of my mind I've got these negative and stressful feelings that aren't nice to cope with. I now can't get anything done in the way I did previously. I can't finish the book, especially as I've decided it's a trilogy rather than one book, and I'm just treading water in my actual day job.

The builders are due to foxtrot Oscar in the next week or so and I'm anxious that even when moving into my office that things won't go back to how they were.
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Re: A thread to discuss depression and other mental issues...

Postby mushy on Sat Jun 16, 2018 11:59 am

Mega Ron,

Sounds like you are going through a tough old time, I have absolutely no advice to give you whatsoever apart from keep on talking about it, either on here or to someone that you will know will listen properly.
Its only the first step but a step that is generally well worth while.
Good luck mate.
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Re: A thread to discuss depression and other mental issues...

Postby Samba on Sat Jun 16, 2018 5:03 pm

Mega Ron wrote:While all this has been going on we've had builders in the house for 6 months now. It's about a week from completion but it's tough to live through. Especially as I've lost my office so am working in the corner of my bedroom.

For a start Ron, I bet that working in the same room that you sleep in has been affecting the quality of your sleep, maybe without you even realising it. Poor sleep has the potential of making you (& all of us) feel very mentally unsettled.
So that should change soon, for the better. :thup:
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Re: A thread to discuss depression and other mental issues...

Postby Chinners92 on Mon Jun 18, 2018 12:07 pm

An interesting article on men talking about their feelings.

https://www.theguardian.com/world/2018/ ... SApp_Other
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