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best way to end a relationship

Postby ToiletDuck on Sun Jan 07, 2018 5:00 pm

hi folks
come to the realisation that my current relationship isn't working and not going to go anywhere
any ideas how the best way to end it?

been together for 4.5 years, she has three kids (23,18 & 12) none for me.
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Re: best way to end a relationship

Postby jevs on Sun Jan 07, 2018 5:12 pm

Take her to watch West Ham mate....she'll slash her wrists at the end!!!!!
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Re: best way to end a relationship

Postby DasNutNock on Sun Jan 07, 2018 5:18 pm

ToiletDuck wrote:hi folks
come to the realisation that my current relationship isn't working and not going to go anywhere
any ideas how the best way to end it?

been together for 4.5 years, she has three kids (23,18 & 12) none for me.


Tell her "it's not you, it's me".
Tell her "it's not me, it's you".
Tell her "I no longer wish to be in a relationship with you".
Move.
Stop answering your phone.
Have a sex change.
Tell her you're in a new relationship with a woman.
Tell her you're in a new relationship with Will Young.
Tell her you prefer w*nking.
Tell her you're becoming a monk.
Tell her you're moving abroad, but you'll be killed if you tell her why.
Tell her you're a Liverpool supporter.
Tell her you've contracted a horrendous disease.
Tell her you're Welsh.
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Re: best way to end a relationship

Postby vietnammer on Sun Jan 07, 2018 5:57 pm

There's no 'best way' I think. I mean, I've been dumped, even had a 'Dear John' letter, but when I've wanted to end relationships it's been a kind of long process where they've realised I'm no longer committed and finally put it to me. Only once had the guts to say outright that I wanted to split and it was an awful evening of tears.

Think it depends too much on maturity and individual personality to seek a 'best way'. Mutual friends' advice maybe?

"I prefer w*nking" isn't bad though.
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Re: best way to end a relationship

Postby Rio on Sun Jan 07, 2018 6:08 pm

Tell her your gay.

Unless of course you want fi cop of with with her mates or family.

If so tell her she’s gay
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Re: best way to end a relationship

Postby Johnny Byrne's Boots on Sun Jan 07, 2018 6:12 pm

Ensure she 'catches' you watching some grot when she gets home. Ideally you'll have your trousers round your ankles.
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Re: best way to end a relationship

Postby jevs on Sun Jan 07, 2018 7:13 pm

Johnny Byrne's Boots wrote:Ensure she 'catches' you watching some grot when she gets home. Ideally you'll have your trousers round your ankles.


And on the vinegar strokes :lol:
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Re: best way to end a relationship

Postby delbert on Sun Jan 07, 2018 7:23 pm

Try fingering her sister ?
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Re: best way to end a relationship

Postby DasNutNock on Sun Jan 07, 2018 7:24 pm

Tell her you've been concealing that you prefer the "German" style, where you poo on one another during lovemaking. Tell her you've been eating a lot of sweetcorn, too.
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Re: best way to end a relationship

Postby sicknote on Sun Jan 07, 2018 7:53 pm

Good luck very tough mate, especially when kids are involved even if they are not your flesh and blood, there is just pain, theres no right or wrong way there only good and bad,

And its whether you want to do the good thing when leaving her, ive not done that and regretted it, but somtimes cicumstances dictate, im sure she must sense it, you need to talk, and see how she reacts, you never know she might not want to be with you

Anyhow good luck
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Re: best way to end a relationship

Postby clawhammer on Sun Jan 07, 2018 7:55 pm

DasNutNock wrote:Tell her you've been concealing that you prefer the "German" style, where you poo on one another during lovemaking. Tell her you've been eating a lot of sweetcorn, too.

You are Marjorie Proops and I claim my £5.
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Re: best way to end a relationship

Postby DasNutNock on Sun Jan 07, 2018 8:17 pm

Where do I send the cash?
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Re: best way to end a relationship

Postby Rocketron on Sun Jan 07, 2018 8:20 pm

Simply tell the truth.
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Re: best way to end a relationship

Postby Mega Ron on Sun Jan 07, 2018 8:41 pm

How long have you been feeling like it?
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Re: best way to end a relationship

Postby sendô on Sun Jan 07, 2018 9:00 pm

DM her on IG like all the kids do. Or snapchat. Woteva.
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Re: best way to end a relationship

Postby Tenbury on Sun Jan 07, 2018 10:44 pm

The worst of it is when you've both got sick of each other,but you're just used to each other,and changing things is just too stressful.
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Re: best way to end a relationship

Postby Joyeux Marteau on Sun Jan 07, 2018 10:49 pm

Rocketron wrote:Simply tell the truth.


This.

Good luck to you.
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Re: best way to end a relationship

Postby Rowly on Sun Jan 07, 2018 11:16 pm

Are you both on Facebook? Change your relationship status.
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Re: best way to end a relationship

Postby WHU Independent on Sun Jan 07, 2018 11:27 pm

Take her to a nice restaurant - she's much less likely to have a hissy fit there or get loud. During the conversation tell her that you've realised that you've not been making her happy of late and have noticed that she has been clearly unhappy. The last thing you want to do is see her unhappy, so to sort things out, you suggest a bit of a break in the relationship. This way you can both take a step back and assess what the problem is.

Obviously, when you make the break have less and less contact with her and ultimately confirm that she seems a lot happier without you now, so you best go your separate ways. Don't say you want to be friends and keep in contact as it gets messy - just once the break is made minimise all contact.

Always worked for me - and I've had it used against me too:)
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Re: best way to end a relationship

Postby 'stone hammer on Sun Jan 07, 2018 11:51 pm

Is she one of those lunatic birds who regularly checks your phone?

If so, download Grindr (if you haven't already :wink: ) and start chatting....
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