Becoming a dad

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Re: Becoming a dad

Postby The Old Man of Storr on Thu Oct 11, 2018 12:00 am

Ok , this isn't meant to frighten you , it was just something that happened to us and if my sister's boyfriend at the time hadn't been there I'm not sure we'd have known what to do - Becky , our daughter was just weeks old when she went all still , the boyfriend took her and just turned her upside down and whatever it was that was causing the problem ceased to be a problem , she began breathing as normal again and everything was fine , I'll be forever grateful . Hopefully you won't need that little bit of advice but I'd have been grateful of it all those years ago .

Also , she was a bugger to get to sleep , we'd have to take her out in the car until she nodded off , then carry her in quick before she woke up again , another thing I had to do to get her to sleep was push her around the streets of Potters Bar singing to her , it was gone midnight some nights - I loved it though .

Children cement a Marriage or a Partnership , brings you even closer together .

I've had many friends over the years , lots and lots but nowadays all I want is the company of my Family , Family is everything .
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Re: Becoming a dad

Postby Monkeybubbles on Thu Oct 11, 2018 8:22 am

A couple of times my boys wanted to play, and I didn't want to play, so I didn't play. It was the worst 5hing I've ever done, still full of regret. Always play, no matter how pooped you are.
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Re: Becoming a dad

Postby DasNutNock on Thu Oct 11, 2018 8:32 am

Monkeybubbles wrote:A couple of times my boys wanted to play, and I didn't want to play, so I didn't play. It was the worst 5hing I've ever done, still full of regret. Always play, no matter how pooped you are.


Agreed, disappointing your kids is about as low a feeling as you’ll ever experience.
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Re: Becoming a dad

Postby CentenaryUpperHammer on Thu Oct 11, 2018 10:58 am

Our son has just gone 8 months old & despite the tiredness, worry & stress - I wouldn't change it for the world.

The first few weeks were tough - especially on the missus who, now looking back, probably had a touch of post natal. I definitely echo the thoughts about trying to get out the house, even if it's just a little trip to the local shop. We started with a walk to the co-op, then the high street etc.

Touch wood, he has worked himself into a pretty good routine & is usually asleep around 9pm until 6.30ish. Both of us are back to work now which means driving him to the SIL's for her to look after him. This has been the toughest thing. Leaving him at 7am & not seeing him again until 7pm. The weekends are an absolute god send & we spoil him rotten.

Don't forget - no one has a clue what they are doing so don't feel stupid to ask questions or if you do something wrong. It's a learning curve.

Wish you all the best.
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Re: Becoming a dad

Postby DM on Thu Oct 11, 2018 1:55 pm

Burningaham wrote:Get a nappy bin you can operate with one hand. Good luck.


Learn how do everything with one hand! And enjoy every second of it, even if it is 4.00am in the morning!
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Re: Becoming a dad

Postby sendô on Thu Oct 11, 2018 5:44 pm

Meh, re the onesie sleepsuits, you soon get used to whipping them off, have new nappy under as old nappy goes whilst other hand simultaneously holds up the legs and wipes the *****, then it's just a few poppers back on rather than dragging bottoms over them.

You soon get used to changing fast and carefully and not waking them.

Top tip - put a baby wipe over his willy.
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Re: Becoming a dad

Postby Rocketron on Thu Oct 11, 2018 6:37 pm

Monkeybubbles wrote:A couple of times my boys wanted to play, and I didn't want to play, so I didn't play. It was the worst 5hing I've ever done, still full of regret. Always play, no matter how pooped you are.

DasNutNock wrote:Agreed, disappointing your kids is about as low a feeling as you’ll ever experience.

However, you are making them aware that "I want it and I want it now" doesn't always work.
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Re: Becoming a dad

Postby Johnny Byrne's Boots on Thu Oct 11, 2018 6:58 pm

^^^^ The reality is more like "I don't know what I want but I want it now"
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Re: Becoming a dad

Postby JerseyHammer on Thu Oct 11, 2018 8:33 pm

Cheers all! Tips are being noted down, especially the wet wipe over willy which I'm sure will save me (and the walls) a shower or two.

I go away for around 2-3 months (June, July, August) when my bosses arrive to use their boat (how dare they!). My job requires me very often to wake up when an alarm goes off (once a night at least) when we're away during the season / go fix problem / wake up again at 7am / work until midnight - so right now I feel like I'll be going into this but 24/7
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Re: Becoming a dad

Postby ChzMff on Sat Oct 13, 2018 6:22 am

Our little boy is just over 2 weeks old and the most difficult thing for me is something we play no part in: breastfeeding. We were given very little info beforehand and then after the birth they simply want to ensure he was fed rather than arm you with the tools to feed successfully in the big wide world. It’s been a real struggle and utterly demoralising at times because there’s nothing I can do bar provide verbal support to my wife.

Everything people say about sleepless nights has been true. We are trying to get better at sleeping when he does during the day. As somebody said, accept the fact you will no longer have continuous sleep and it will be a lot easier.

Before the birth I was adamant of buying the least possible. Babies to me were like weddings, pulling on the heart strings meaning people buy any old *****. Since he was born, I’ve changed my tune and will buy anything that makes our lives easier or gives us more rest.

I would be lying if I said every day was easy but I’ve tried to break things down into small victories (we all showered yesterday and got round a shopping centre!). You’ll find you could just sit there and watch him for hours. They literally change every day.

Lastly, just do everything you can to support your partner. My respect for women has shot through the roof. Their bodies are incredible. It’s cruel that after the torture of labour they are then immediately thrust into looking after this precious life while absolutely exhausted. Do everything you can, bite your lip as her hormones go all over the place and show her more love than you ever have as she needs it.

I’m back to work on Monday and dreading leaving my little family.
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Re: Becoming a dad

Postby ChzMff on Sat Oct 13, 2018 6:25 am

Oh, and wet wipe over willy! Nice that somebody told you that before being peed in the face! :D
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Re: Becoming a dad

Postby only1post on Sat Oct 13, 2018 11:05 am

Forget the wet wipe. Your shock and discomfort of being peed on will be rewarded with a smile and fit of giggles from your boy that will warm your heart.
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Re: Becoming a dad

Postby DasNutNock on Sun Oct 14, 2018 3:54 pm

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