Mega Ron wrote:it's hard to say "I'm a **** to my kids".
Have done the same but no doubt like you it's rare.DasNutNock wrote:Hard, maybe - but you shouldn't feel like a failure if you do. I've blown up a few times at my eldest daughter, then felt horribly guilty afterwards. The only thing that part alleviated that was to apologise and to try to explain why I lost my temper and became so aggressive.
A bit of parental fear isn't a bad thing in kids - lots of my daughter's friends have no respect or fear of their parents, and they're growing up to be utter sh*ts. Getting the balance right is tough, especially when it can be as frustrating as it is when they won't listen.
It's difficult not to replicate some parental behaviour, they're your main point of reference for parenthood, for better or worse.
Ron, I think it's easy to feel that we should all be these paragons of virtue where our children are concerned but fact is you are human and so are they. As such they are capable of some truly ****ing annoying behaviour.
I told my eldest to stop acting like an idiot the other day . I shouldn't have done that (and I think hand on heart it's the first time I've ever used that term towards her), felt awful afterwards and apologised pretty quickly.
I think a momentary snap followed by an apology doesn't do much harm and I was describing her behaviour, not suggesting she was an idiot full stop. Worth mentioning that what she was doing was completely idiotic though.
I think I can say that on balance I'm a loving and caring dad who wants the best for his children. I'd imagine you are much the same from seeing your posts on here.